The Scribbly One

Me: “I’m used to feeling abnormal.”

Male friend: “In what way do you feel abnormal?”

Me: “Too bookish… not ladylike enough… not focused on climbing the corporate ladder… don’t care about making piles of money… won’t have sex before marriage…”

Male friend: “What do you mean, ‘not ladylike enough’? You certainly don’t look very much like a man.”

Me: “It’s got to do with being gentle and demure; the traditional definition, you know.”

Male friend: “How many gentle and demure girls are there left in this world? If you find any, show me, and I’ll be there in an instant!”

Me: (thinking) “Thank you for rubbing salt in the wound!”

Talk about insensitive males…

If you mention three different things in your email and he replies, “That will be fine”, which is he referring to?

Men…

What do you do when you fall for a guy who’s chased by legions of women? It’s not the insecurity issue at stake here, but the worry that I might become simply one of many; another face in the crowd. I do not want to chase, yet I do want him to know that he has found favour in my eyes. How to walk the tightrope? What will distinguish me from all the rest? I know not.

What happens when you think the first date was merely ‘okay’ (in other words, blah) and he calls you to ask for a second one?

It wasn’t the fact that he didn’t offer to pay for my meal. It also wasn’t the fact that he calculated how much I owed him as if he didn’t trust me to be honest about the amount. It wasn’t even the fact that he meticulously factored in the 5% government tax and 10% service charge. It was the fact that he failed to hand over the 50 sen change.

50 sen might be a tiny sum, hardly worth mentioning, but little things like this reveal the depths of a man’s character.

“Could I ask you for a favour? Don’t tell anyone how we met,” he said.

I find it amusing that, while he’s daring enough to try out a dating service, he’s too embarrassed to let people know he’s trying it out!

Of course, it’s not something I’d broadcast either, but if asked, I’d have no qualms revealing the truth. Especially since I find it quite difficult to say the words ‘dating service’ with a straight face.

He isn’t a reader - doesn’t like to read. I hadn’t decided whether or not that was a bad sign. Now I don’t have to.