How women’s minds work
Friend: “Ask him to pick you up from the airport and give you a ride home.”
Me: “You’ve got to be kidding! If he weren’t here, I’d manage on my own, but now that he’s here, I suddenly can’t manage?! The last thing I want to do is abruptly turn into some helpless damsel in distress.”
Friend: “Not damsel in distress; it’s called ‘testing the waters’, my dear.”
Me: “Testing the waters is when you tell him you’ll be arriving by plane and wait to see whether he offers to pick you up from the airport!”
Friend: “Even better! Why didn’t I think of that? You’re a closet wheeler-dealer!”
If I’ve just met you on a blind date and don’t really know you, yet, I’m going to trust you know what you’re doing, unless you ask. If you ask for help, I’ll give it, but I’m not going to press too hard.
If we’ve been out a few times and/or have some sort of relationship, I’m going to ask. It’s not that I don’t think you can’t manage, but that it’s an opportunity to spend time together and to be helpful.
Comment by kevin — October 25, 2005 @ 1:03 pm
I have no idea whether we have some sort of relationship. That is to say, I don’t know how he is viewing the situation. We are definitely still in the getting-to-know-you stage, though. I define it as “exploring”.
Comment by Scribbler — October 26, 2005 @ 12:42 am