Experience is not only overrated, it might even be undesirable
I can’t stand it.
Back to Minishorts’s question: “Do you prefer him to be experienced or not experienced?”
More inanity:
- “Experienced lover, please. Truth be told, men don’t like women who do nothing but lie there like a dead fish.” ~Kenn
Newsflash - truth be told, women don’t like men who make gross generalisations, ridiculous assumptions, and buy into chauvinistic gender stereotypes. I don’t even want to know how this person has managed to translate “inexperienced woman” into “someone who lies there like a dead fish”. Frankly, I plan to be a full and enthusiastic participant when the time finally comes. After all, I’ve certainly waited long enough to satisfy my curiosity and try all the ideas I’ve only ever heard others talk about!
- “Breaking in a newbie is always tiresome.” ~NekoKensei
Arrogant and condescending statements like this lead me to believe I would prefer my husband to be inexperienced. Silly, you say? But then I’ll know he’s not approaching me with preconceived ideas he’s appropriated from encounters and involvements with other women. Neither will he approach love-making with the idea that he’s some kind of Don Juan or irresistible Adonis who’s now going to pay me the ultimate compliment by teaching this untutored virgin the pleasures of the flesh. And he won’t be constantly comparing me to his previous more skilful, adroit, practiced, experienced lovers inside his head.
“Arrogant and condescending statements like this lead me to believe I would prefer my husband to be inexperienced.”
Two thoughts. First, the type of guy who makes the above statement is more likely to be an inexperienced guy who just wants you to think he’s experienced. Second, the kind of guy who makes the above statement doesn’t make it because he is/isn’t experienced, but because he’s an asshole.
Don’t look for the guy without experience. Look for the a guy who isn’t an asshole.
Comment by kevin — August 16, 2005 @ 6:55 am
experienced or not - it doesn’t really matter. It depends on the person (and on you of course!).
Comment by IB — August 16, 2005 @ 8:47 am
I guess it all depends on what type of partner you get, experienced or not would not bring too much onto the table if you’re looking for a long term relationship instead of a one night lay.
Comment by KY — August 16, 2005 @ 10:38 am
Kevin, hard to find non-assholes leh
Comment by The Suffragette — August 16, 2005 @ 12:44 pm
All depends on where you’re looking. If you’re looking for cock, it’s hard not to find the asshole. Look at heart and head, you’ll find there are plenty non-assholes out there.
Comment by kevin — August 16, 2005 @ 2:02 pm
Kevin - I’ve heard it said that some men are utterly charming but morph into assholes in bed. They were only charming in the first place because they were trying to get the woman horizontal! If only there was a foolproof test to determine whether a man is an asshole. That’s why women test men so much.
IB - True, true. We should not pigeonhole people. Ok, I will give the man a chance to prove he is not an asshole.
KY - Am definitely not looking for a one-night lay. Hence, yes I suppose it doesn’t matter since I’m going to do my utmost not to choose an asshole in the first place.
Suffragette - I’m sure there are some around, it’s just that the assholes are more conspicuous and leave a wide trail of devastation so they end up grabbing all the limelight. Not to mention give the whole male gender a bad name. The non-assholes, because they are not assholes, tend not to call attention to themselves, which unfortunately causes them to be easily overlooked.
Kevin - I agree that there are good hearts and heads - none of which are pointed in my direction!
Comment by Scribbler — August 16, 2005 @ 2:31 pm
scribbler, you sound pretty smart.
Comment by MB — August 16, 2005 @ 2:34 pm
MB - Why, thank you!
Comment by Scribbler — August 16, 2005 @ 4:56 pm