Overrated experience
Minishorts asks, “Do you prefer him to be experienced or not experienced?”
One of her readers said, “I’m an innocent girl here. Really. So I’ll want an experienced dude. 
Or it’ll be a game of the ‘blind leading the blind’.”
My God. What kind of argument is this? One does not need to be experienced in order to be knowledgeable. Granted, if you’re not experienced, all you’ll have is theory, which can vastly differ from practice, but you still would be very far from ‘blind’. Besides, as another reader pointed out, “Experienced does not necessarily equal good - just cos someone’s been fucking a long time don’t mean they know how to fuck.” In other words, there is nothing to stop an experienced lover from also being an inconsiderate, selfish lover.
I am inexperienced but I sometimes feel like the most sexually aware and knowledgeable virgin on the planet. I have never even romantically held a man’s hand before, let alone been kissed. Difficult to believe, but true.
My wife and I were each others’ “firsts.” It was great! I loved that we could learn together. While I’m considerably more experienced after 5 years of marriage and won’t hold it against her if I marry a woman with experience, my preference would be a woman with little, so that as much as possible we can learn together without too much idea of “what it’s supposed to be.”
Comment by kevin — August 14, 2005 @ 8:54 am
Oh, and she is the only woman I’ve ever kissed or romantically held hands with.
You’re a rare and wonderful treasure, Scribbler!
Comment by kevin — August 14, 2005 @ 8:56 am
Am glad that I’m not alone in the ‘Never been’ department. Have always felt a bit stupid when people share their experiences and I just sit there, a tad baffled.
Comment by keem — August 14, 2005 @ 11:32 am
I think learning together is one of the foundational bricks that God had in mind when He said wait ’til you’re married. Plus, anybody who is sensitive to the needs of their loved one won’t need to have experience to quickly learn to please their spouse!
Never feel awkward to be a virgin. I dearly wish I were. Thank God for second chances!
Comment by MB — August 14, 2005 @ 11:21 pm
Saying you need experience to oogie boogie is like saying you need experience to learn how to breathe. Puleeezzzzz
Comment by Berean — August 15, 2005 @ 11:43 pm